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Joan Pina

Memorial created 01-7-2008 by
Joan Pina
Becky Vidmosko
June 20 1985 - July 5 2003

Beckys Aunt Patti is making memory hankies for me, Beckys brothers, grandparents and her aunts and uncles, from Beckys prom dress. This means so much to me. I am so honored Patti that you are doing this for us. Patti wrote me this letter....

I have tried and tried to come up with just the right words to send you...until I realized that there are no "right" words for this moment. My heart aches for you and I can only imagine the depths of your despair. But I want to try to tell you of how much the memory hankies mean... As a family we have lost one of our most cherished treasures...a child, a child of yours. A child who was so much to so many people. She was a daughter, a sister, a grandchild, a niece, a cousin and a friend. Becky had a contagious laugh, a love for games and a special caring for children. She is indeed missed by so many, and even though she wasn't a part of our daily lives, we feel the loss too. As her Mom, the loss must be so unbearable. Yet, through that loss you have given us all a most wonderful gift. You have given us a gift of your love for Becky and one that we will treasure always. When you asked me if I would make something special from Becky's prom dresses, I was so taken aback. How could you part with them; was what I kept asking, until I realized that you had truly given from your heart. You wanted us to have a part of Becky to cherish, something tangible to touch and smell...something of hers to always have with us, something wonderful. You chose to share something that was part of Becky's life... a night she must have felt like a princess and when she truly looked beautiful! The honor I felt cannot be described, except to say that I never felt worthy of such an honor. I tried to make the memory hankies a work of beauty, but it cannot compare to the beauty of your gift! You have given each of us a memory to hold and cherish and to pass down in our families for generations to come. You have allowed us to keep Becky's memory alive as we hold the hankies and smell her favorite perfume on them. We cannot thank you enough for that blessing. It has taken me much too long to finish each hankie. It is a very draining process and one that I will share with you. I take her dress out of its special garment bag...I hold it in my arms and start to cry. I cry for you mostly, knowing that this dress should have been in Becky's closet. I have her picture nearby and look at it often. I talk to her and know she is after me to finish the hankies. I have her favorite perfume, Vanilla Fields, nearby and spray the room with the fragrance. Of course all this is done through tears...once I have had a good cry and make sure that I don't spill any tears on the dress I proceed. I handle the dress with care and gentleness. I cut each hankie, position the embroidery design and begin to embroider each flower and each letter of her name. I think of her having such fun dancing in the dress and the smile returns to my face. I often feel a gentle presence, like a warm hug, and I continue to sew. Once finished, I assemble the hanky, pick out the lace I want to use and determine that by the person I am making it for...not too frilly for the guys, just enough flair for the girls. It all sounds so simple; except for the fact that this project is truly one of the most generous gifts we have all received. It is a gift from your heart and we humbly accept it. I know that Becky is pleased that we each have a memory hanky to share with our families. Our thanks and our love goes out to you Joan. You have taught us a lesson in love and sharing that has touched us all. Your hanky was the hardest of all to make....I could picture you helping Becky prepare for the prom, making sure her hair was just right, the dress and shoes just perfect and all the pictures taken. I also pictured you taking the dress from her closet and sending it off to me. I'm not sure I would have been so brave....but you were so generous and loving and thought of each of us in turn as we have our family memory hanky. It was so loving of you to share that memory with each of us, as the hankies help in making more memories. We all speak of Becky as we hold our hankies and keep her memory alive. You have given us that wonderful opportunity and one that we wouldn't have had otherwise. You allowed us to honor Becky's memory...we feel so helpless here otherwise. So you see your gift has brought so much pleasure, so much love and it was all done because of your loving gift and your love for Becky! I know that Becky is so proud of your strength, your generosity and your love! We can only say thank you from the bottom of our hearts and hope that you know just how much the memory hanky means to each of us. With much love, Patti











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